As an army wife of almost eight years, I have learned that you move and have to adapt to this lifestyle. I have three deployments under my belt and two of them were when I was in Germany. I had no blood family to turn to when life got me down and so we created our own little family. Don’t get me wrong, I love my blood family but a lot of them just don’t understand what you are going through everyday and the consent questions of where is he? Is he okay? Are you okay? When is he coming home? I could never be able to life with out my husband for 15 months, how do you do it? Gets really old after awhile, and it’s not like I have a choice, he can’t pack me in his ruck sack and take me to Iraq with him! Lovely thought I know hehe but it’s not possible. So, I turned to fellow army wives who are going through the exact same thing. We all come from different cultures and backgrounds but we are all tied together by one strong connection and it is a lifetime bond that will never break. We have laughed together, cried together, drank together and been each others rocks and I love them as my sisters.
Now, being that my husband has been in the army since 2003 and he was stationed in Germany from 2003 and I joined him in 2005, we got extremely lucky and got to stay in Germany until 2011 and same with my little army family, most of us were together for 5-6 years and then 2011 came and we all were split up to different parts of the U.S. I have had a rough time making the same connect that I did in Germany. Maybe it’s because we don’t actually live on post or maybe it’s because I have changed as a person and have a guard up, I’m not sure, but I feel like I’m missing a part of me.
When we moved to Alaska in 2011 we decided to buy a home. We purchased new construction in a neighborhood that was no where near finished. Our house was the third home on the street and since then there are 20 of us now. I have met a few of our neighbors and really like them but I’ve become fast friends with two of them, and today felt like old times. We went out to lunch and just laughed and hung out for hours. I’m glad that I have found a reconnection to girlfriends again, and can see this being are little Alaskan family.
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I’ve only been an Army wife for about five months now – but I’ve already connected with so many Milsos. I love the little community, that there are so many girls out there that have your back and will listen to you without even really knowing you. <3 It's pretty awesome I must agree. I look forward to reading your blog posts!
It’s wonderful to find those connections when you aren’t close to home. It makes deployments and field problems so much easier
That’s great that you have found a few girlfriends again that you can laugh and relate to! I imagine it would be very hard to get talked to/questioned that way by family all the time. :/ Kind of like the last month or so before you have a baby. Those questions and the pity makes you feel SO much worse!! lol
Oh yes it’s so the same! It’s nice having a family away from family